Moving on after a breakup
One of the top songs on the charts right now is Taylor Swift’s “We are Never Ever Getting Back Together.”
USU students deal with relationships all the time, and some inevitably end in a breakup. Still, the men and women of USU have found ways to pick themselves up and move on, even if they are “never ever getting back together.”
“For the first week or so I try to make her calm, but it’s probably better not to be together for a while.” said Tyler White, a junior majoring in wildlife science. “Just try to hang out with them and try not to make things awkward, because when things get awkward – that’s when things get bad.”
There are five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Women tend to work through these stages at a slower rate than men, said Jessie Corbridge, a junior majoring in social work.
“Guys tend to go out and find a new girl, while it takes girls a while to be able to date again,” Corbridge said. “Finding a new guy is key for a girl to get over a breakup.”
Corbridge said before a person can find someone new, they have to learn to be happy on their own.
“You usually cry for a minute – then you’re super happy because you’re single,” said Jessica Vehar, a junior majoring in special education and elementary education. “Then you go out and find someone who is better than the last guy.”
“I think it’s easiest to get over someone when you find someone better, when you’re fully over someone,” said Nicole Compton, a freshman majoring in psychology.
For guys, there is not a particular time or order to go through the five stages of grief, according to Matthew Thomas, an undeclared junior
“There’s not any five stages,” Thomas said. “I just surround myself with friends and family and try to have a good time.”
Men’s main prerogative is usually staying friends with the girl after the breakup, White said.
“If I want to get back together, I try to make that happen, and if not, I try to stay chill with them,” he said.
And while guys seem pretty relaxed about a breakup, they do have their own comfort foods, according to Thomas.
“We eat a lot of Betos,” Thomas said. “We don’t eat ice cream, but we eat a lot of Betos.”
Men and women can have differing opinions on how breakups affect Facebook usage.
“A lot of times when you break up with someone you hope that they aren’t happy right away,” Vehar said. “You hope that they are sad like you are so
you go to their Facebook profile and see if they’re with anyone or if they’re sad like you.”
“I feel like some guys will look if something pops up on their newsfeed, but won’t go out of their way to look at a girl’s Facebook profile,” said Thomas Crandall, a junior majoring in history.
– marissa.shields@aggiemail.usu.edu