LETTER: Column forgot guys’ faults

To the editor:

I recently read the article about Dating- The Things We Do and agreed with some points but I thought a lot was left out. As a girl I admit that I have done some, if not all of the things that girls were accuse of. But the author failed to mention guys’ faults. Much space was dedicated to telling about your buddies’ girl problems but didn’t mention the problems your girlfriends had with boys. Is this because they didn’t have any? If the only problems they have with boys are the fact that they don’t open doors then I need to meet these miracle men. Women are just as at fault as men in causing relationship drama but your one-sided views lead me to believe that you find yourself, and other men, less as fault.

You say women are confusing and tend to lead guys on. This is true, but if you ask most every girl they would say that they never intentionally confuse and lead on guys. Most confusion, on the part of both sexes, comes from misinterpretation. Both parties are prone to reading into things too deeply. He laughed at my joke, he must like me! She sat by me in the couch, she must be interested! These misinterpretations are not the fault of either party in general, but the fault of the individual. If you want someone to like you enough you will analyze any little thing for a glimmer of a return in your affections. Maybe the real problem is that everyone is so in need of someone to like him or her, like you mentioned, that we are going oo far to fulfill our needs.

If you have read this far I will be impressed. Lastly, I would like to address the issue of a girl saying she doesn’t want a Valentine’s gift. First, if a girl says that she requires a gift for Valentine’s Day she runs the risk of looking materialistic, and high maintenance. By saying she doesn’t want one she appears less demanding. Secondly, if a guy gives her a gift anyway she

knows that he really cares and though her worthy of a gift regardless of her asking for one. It makes the girl feel special. She knows he did it because he wanted to, not because she wanted him to. On a third point, who doesn’t like presents? I have never known a girl to refuse a gift on the basis that she didn’t want it. Lastly, if you do not know your significant other well enough to know that they are lying when they say they don’t want a gift, then you should reevaluate your relationship.

Those are my feelings on the issues. Other than those minor disagreements I enjoyed your article.

Liz Wilson