LETTER: Is abstinence morally correct?

Editor,

I am a woman, a wife, a mother, and a Utah (more specifically, a Cache Valley) Mormon. I feel there is significance to that statement in relation to my opinion about abstinence.

Many organized religions set guidelines for their followers to abide by. Most use fear tactics to keep their members obedient. If one strays from the set parameters he will suffer dire consequences, his salvation is in jeopardy, his membership to the organization is in jeopardy, his good standing with the members/community is tarnished, and his self-worth takes a heavy blow.

In short, I feel there is a stifling pressure (particularly for women), for single young people to hide within the protective bounds of obedience at the cost of “knowing themselves” through a process of education and awareness. This also absolves them of taking full responsibility for themselves.

After all, they are only doing what they are told. Without the freedom to “think and live outside the box” and take ownership of themselves, can they truly achieve a healthy personal and spiritual awareness?

My hope for all people in search of self is for them to be responsible (for their own development, even sexuality) free of judgment, criticism, fear and pressure. Live true to thine own self. Live free.

Deidri Nielsen