I don’t need no man, but it would be nice to have someone around

In today’s world being a strong, independent woman has become such a popular trend that no one will take you seriously unless you act that way.

According to much of society, strong independent women don’t wait around for a hero to come save us, we are Meg from “Hercules”; damsels in distress that have this under control. We expect people to come to us for their problems, but we don’t go to them because ofcourse we don’t have any problems. We can handle anything and everything that life throws at us without anyone’s help. After all, it’s easier to do that than to risk having to go back and fix someone else’s mistakes.

We all look at ourselves in the mirror in morning, give our reflection that impish grin, and tell ourselves “irl you’re looking fine. Now let’s get out there and crush it”. Yes, the life of an independent, powerful woman is, for the most part, a comfortable one. Not needing to rely on anyone else is nice because it means you can never be disappointed by another person, and that’s not a bad thing. Everyone needs to be a little independent or else nothing would ever get done.

The truth is, at the end of the day no one needs a partner in their lives, but it is nice to have one around. I’m not just talking about for physical reasons, either — though those are nice too. I’m talking about having someone around to help you through the little and big things alike. We all have bad days, and some are scarier than others. Having someone around to push and pull you through those days without making you feel like a burden is nice.

It’s nice to have someone bring you dinner at work or listen to you as you rant about Janice from accounting (you know what you did, Janice). They won’t be afraid to tell you when you are being crazy or hold you when you start crying for no apparent reason — something I do so often I’m beginning to worry that I can no longer count myself as mentally stable, but then again who is anymore?

But you can’t just expect them to do all of that for you without out you returning the favor.

You have to bring dinner to them too and listen to them rant about something you honestly couldn’t care less about. You even have to hold them while they cry. And yes, men do cry too — this is the 21st century; women wear pants and men cry, get over it.

The reason that it is so nice to have someone around who loves you isn’t because of all the benefits. It’s because their actions prove to you are wanted.

To know that you are wanted by someone simply because you are the person gives you a kind of confidence that no amount of power or independence can match.

The need to be wanted, even if it is just by one person, is a vulnerability that everyone has. To admit that you are vulnerable in this way is terrifying but to deny it is completely illogical.

We all need someone. A boyfriend, a girlfriend, a dog, a husband, a wife or even just a best friend, we all need someone. Even if you haven’t found that person here yet, as long as you let yourself be even a little vulnerable, they will find you.